Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Of Distance & Love


Victor Hugo once said:

"What I felt for you seems less of earth and more of cloudless heaven."             

               Challenging and difficult, though they may not be what we want to hear, are the words that best describe long distance relationships. Keep in mind however, that the words are challenging and difficult, not impossible. Many people choose to give a long distance relationship a try, with the constant curiosity if it was the right decision to make and if it even stands a chance. The truth is, a long distance relationship has just as much a chance of succeeding as any other relationship.

                 Distance relationships share the same facts as an average relationship. It involves two people who share an interest in each other's lives, care for one another and of course have a love for each other that they hope will only continue to grow. On the other hand, a long distance relationship does have its differences as well.

                 It takes away your ability to see each other on a frequent note, as well as the choice of being intimate whenever you desire, not to mention that there would be major trust required. Being unable to spend time together in a physical presence makes it harder to hang on to, but does not spell out doom for your relationship.

                Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty, the relationship is in for danger and unsuccessfulness, just as it would be any other relationship. By accepting the challenge of a long distance relationship, you also accepted the fact that you will have to have the trust and faith that your partner will not be seeing anyone else as promised.

               Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those three will help the relationship survive successfully.

                Perhaps a groovy kind of love is just around the corner for you and your loved ones.


P/S

To you whom captured my heart, when you love someone, you know in your heart that your love never died. You feel their presence in your heart, even if they are out of your life. 

Sometimes, we may not always get what we “want” in life, however, we will always get what we need in order to grow. We may not consciously ask for certain situations, but on a soul level, we brought them into our lives in order to heal, grow and learn what pure love is truly all about.

Once a man has won a woman's love, the love is his forever.  He can only lose the woman because he did not love them as if they are the other half of the sky. And you are the other half of my sky.

Anyone can catch my eyes out there, but it will takes someone special to catch my heart and that person is you. Until then, take care wherever you are in this universe and put in your heart the fact that I had fallen in love with you way before we knew each other.

Live in my heart and pay no rent forever. I love you Rina.

Loving you,

The Half Moon Serenades.

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Of Touch & Love


Helen Keller once said:

" Love is like a beautiful flower which I may not touch, but whose fragrance makes the garden a place of delight just the same."

       
          Now I am not really a romantic person to start with but I believed that to touch is like to give a brand new life to someone that you loved.

          A pat on the back, a caress of the arm to say a few, these are everyday, incidental gestures that we usually take for granted, thanks to our amazingly shy hands.

         Touch is one of the most powerful yet often misunderstood forms of communication and expression of affection in adult relationships. The old adage “A picture is worth a thousand words” definitely applies to touch. Loving touch has the potential to say so much.

         It’s important that you and your partner listen  to touch. Often, couples touch one another without even realizing it. In these circumstances, touching has become so automated that it goes unnoticed and it’s like the touch doesn’t even exist. This is common in long-term relationships and it’s easily fixed. To break your numbness to the touch, you must direct your attention to the sensations of touch and allow them to register in your conscious experience.

          Feel the warmth and pressure of touch. Imagine these sensations radiating beyond the touch-points on your skin, and see them traveling throughout your body.

          Remember, when you entered the world, you were immediately bathed in touch. Reclaiming the gifts of touch can go a long way in nurturing your relationship.

          And perhaps, a groovy kind of love for you and your partner, with a simple touch of love.




P/S

To the one whom captured my heart, I believed that our love is like a silk which will never fades, no matter how often it is washed in the water of adversity and pain. I couldn't find any proper words to express how thankful I am to God for bringing you into my life.

And never be afraid of loneliness in your life anymore, for whenever you are down, in pain or when the world seems to turn their back against you, keep in your heart the fact that I am silently whispering:

            "Go for it my sweetheart, brave against it my hummingbird, because I am here with you."

Close your eyes, and tightly grab my hands in your dreams. Let the love that we shared be a blossoming flowers in our heart.

Hopefully the love in our heart will be the kind of love that never died. I love you Rin Rin.

Loving you,

The Half Moon Serenades.



Thursday, March 15, 2012

Of Cuddle & Love


Francis Scott Fitzgerald once said:

"I love her & that's the beginning and end of everything."

       Now I am not a romantic kind of a guy but I believed cuddling with your loved one has the power to relax, to rejuvenate a relationship that's become a bit moody and to draw you closer to one another emotionally as well as physically.

       Cuddling is most often thought of as something that's done lying down, but it can be done sitting, even standing. Women seem to have more of a need to cuddle, but it's good for both sexes.

        It can be as simple as holding her hands while you're watching TV together. Snuggle on your other half of sky shoulder, or into the crook of her arm as she puts her arm around you. Or perhaps you can catch a quick snuggle anywhere as you slip your arm around your loved one's waist for a nice hug. As long as you don't get carried away sexually, this public display of affection will usually bring smiles to the faces of those around you. They'll probably think you're newly love birds.

         On the other hand, you can ask your partner what they enjoy about cuddling and if there's anything you can do that would make the experience even more enjoyable for them. As with all aspects of romantic physical touch, the most important thing is good communication.

         But perhaps the best cuddle that I wanted in my life will be a gentle back scratch while you're cuddling. Stroking the arm or hands of the other person is also a very loving and tender gesture. Just don't do it too lightly or it might tickle.

         And perhaps a groovy kind of love is there for you when lie facing each other when you cuddle and you have the advantage of being able to look into one another's eyes as you talk and just enjoy the moment with the other half of your sky.




P/S

To you whom captured my heart, back then I thought I was the unluckiest person in the world when it comes to love, then I looked at you and smiled. Why? Because no matter how unlucky I was, it was worth it because of you.

My dearest hummingbird, God is so good. He knows where a person will be happy, where they can love and be loved, where heaven on earth is. Now I know why he put me near you. For you is the other half of my sky and I loved you forever and a day.

Until then, put in your heart the fact I had fallen in love with you way before we started our beautiful relationship. Any guy can love a thousand girl, but I hope I can be the rare guy that can love one girl, which is you, in billions of ways.

I love you Rina, they say love hides in every corner, well I guess, then I must be walking in circles all this while.





With Love,

The Half Moon Serenades. 



Thursday, March 8, 2012

Happy Women's Day


Sigmund Freud once said:

"A woman should soften, not weaken a man."

          Without each other there is nothing you know, it was a different kind of viewpoint of what I felt about woman, an iconic specimen of God power in the world, just like the sunset and sunrise. Today notes, it is not just for someone who is very special in my life, but also it is for all the woman.

           Woman as I know most of the time, always understand the little child inside the man. Sometimes, they treated their guy like an infant. If a woman has to choose between catching a flying ball of opportunity and saving infant's life, she will choose to save the infant's life without even considering how rough the path is in front of them. 

          Sure God created man before woman, but then you always make a rough draft before the final masterpiece aren't you? Don't get me wrong, it is not about saying woman is better than me, but after all, every guy is forever in their debt.

           Mama once told me before that for guy, every woman is wrong until she cries, and then they gonna tell the woman, she is right instantly. I laughed when I heard this but it is true. In history, Eva Braun managed to floored down Adolf Hitler or Marilyn Monroe bringing down John Fitzegerald Kennedy.

           For me, if Beyonce Knowles had been Moses's secretary, instead of listing Ten Commandment, he gonna do it Alvin and Chipmunk way, that's how powerful a woman in this world. For the other half of the sky, Happy Women's Day! 

           May a groovy kind of love be the light of your life.

___________________________

P/S

To you whom captured my heart, it is very important for me to express to you how much you really worth in my life. I wish I could do this in person while gazing into your eyes. But since we are physically far from each other, separated by miles of waiting, this expression must come in form of letters such as this.

Beautiful girl, that is how I personally think about you. I know one day, it is gonna be difficult for you, as it is for me, to be together forever. Life seems to be full of trials of this type which test our inner strength and more importantly, our devotion and love for one another. After all, it is said that 'true love' is boundless and immeasurable and overcomes all forms of adversity. In truth, if it is genuine, it will grow stronger with each assault upon its existence.

I will cherish any thought of you, I will prize any memory of you that rises from the depth of my mind and live for the day when our physical separation will be the things of the past. 

Until then, take care there my hummingbird. You are my world, and I love you forever and always my other half of sky.

Happy Women's Day! One month of loving you. :)




With Love,

The Half Moon Serenades.

Saturday, March 3, 2012

The Game of Love


Hans Nouwens once said:

"In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged."

         I recently heard said that in relationships that all arguments, tensions and breakdowns are based on one thing’ Do I Matter to You In Your Life?’

        The eastern life seems fuelled by one up man ship; who has what, owns what, whose thinner,sexier, richer, more successful, more intelligent or more popular. All of which strives to say ‘I’m better than you’ or ‘You’re not as good as me’.
 
       When this is attitude is brought into a relationship the see/saw effect happens and the result is imbalance and an unhealthy cycle of behaviour can occur, as each individual looks outwardly for more power, to avoid feeling powerless.

        Love built on this foundation and dynamic are short lived, dramatic and painful to endure, but often the thrill is addictive and mistaken for love.

        Every client I have ever worked with from children to adults reply the same to the feeling of powerlessness – they feel vulnerable(often reflected as unsafe) and it is this which underpins the above responses, a feeling which can be extremely scary and primal, to varying degrees for each individual.

      Power and vulnerability go hand in hand, as does fear and courage. We are born powerless and it is our journey in life to move from relying on external control and power over us, as children, to having internal personal power and self control; like the cub growing into the fierce lion, whose immense strength and power is contained and conserved for necessity; food and protection.

     Without that progression to internal power and acceptance of vulnerability, we cannot as individuals open the door to true love and we stay locked in a battle for power with others around us.

     Love is not a power game, so instead of looking outwardly and asking ‘do I matter to you? Perhaps it is best to first look inwardly and ask ‘do I matter to me?’

     And then as the old adage goes; ‘Treat others how you expect to be treated.’

     Only then, perhaps a groovy kind of love is just around the corner for you. 



P/S

To you whom captured my heart, five years of friendship with you makes me realized a lot of new things. I learned that sometimes the hardest things in this world (which is a woman's heart) can be overcome by the softest things in this world, which is love.

You are the other half of my sky. Like the music and symphony on the waters, you captured my heart in very special way and for that I am thanking God for bringing you into my life. It is like my night has become a sunny morning because of you, my hummingbird.

I love you even more day by day than I could have believed & I was prepared to love you forever and always. Since love growns within you, so beauty grows. For love is the beauty of life, and you are my life.

Until the day we met again, put in your heart the fact that our love is a miracle, match-made in heaven and never let it go. Because in heaven and in love, there is no impossibilities.

Love is a dream that came alive, when we met.

I love you Rin. :)

For the other half of my sky,

The Half Moon Serenades.