Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Of Hugs & Love



Oliver Wendell Holmes once said: 

"Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness." 

        It is not only possible but necessary to change one's approach to love to ward off depression. Follow these to get more of what you want out of life, to love and be loved. 

Recognize the difference between limerence and love. Limerence is the psychological state of deep infatuation. It feels good but rarely lasts. Limerence is that first stage of mad attraction whereby all the hormones are flowing and things feel so right. Limerence lasts, on average, six months. It can progress to love. Love mostly starts out as limerence, but limerence doesn't always evolve into love.     

Know that love is a learned skill, not something that comes from hormones or emotion particularly. Erich Fromm called it "an act of will." If you don't learn the skills of love you virtually guarantee that you will be depressed, not only because you will not be connected enough but because you will have many failure experiences. 


Learn good communication skills. They are a means by which you develop trust and intensify connection. The more you can communicate the less depressed you will be because you will feel known and understood. 

         There are always core differences between two people, no matter how good or close you are, and if the relationship is going right those differences surface. The issue then is to identify the differences and negotiate them so that they don't distance you or kill the relationship.

         Perhaps a groovy kind of love is just around the corner for you with a simple hug.





P/S

To you whom I haven't met yet, did you believe in the power of hug? For me, hug is the universal medicine whenever we slipped into depression. A hug is like a handshake from the heart and worth a thousands words.

Hugging has no unpleasant side effects and is all natural.There are no batteries to replace, it's inflation-proof and non-fattening with no monthly payments. It's non-taxable, non-polluting, and is, of course, fully refundable. In another words, hug will be the shortest between me and you, one day.

I love hugging. I'd always hope that human is like an octopus, so I could hug ten people at a time. But at the end of the day, the hug from you is the one that I will cherish the most in my life.

Until then, put in your heart the fact that I had fallen in love with you way before we knew each other. 338 love letters here dedicated to you won't be enough to express how grateful I am when you appear in my life one day.

I will not give up on loving you.

For the other half of the sky,

The Half Moon Serenades.  

Friday, January 6, 2012

The Motivation In Love


Hans Christian Anderson once said:

"Just living is not enough.  One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower."
             
             All of us need motivation. We eat because we feel hungry. We drink water because we are thirsty. We do everything in life for a reason. We do everything in life for a reason. For living, we only need air, water, food and shelter. But we are much more evolved than animals. So we want to achieve something in life that satisfies us.

               That makes us feel a success. All of us have our own goals. Some of us have goals that look highly impossible. But history tells us that this has been done. Unknown people born in unknown families have amassed wealth beyond imagination. Great painters were born in small places but today the whole world knows about them. How? Because they wanted to achieve something. Take any field and you will find some achievers who themselves cannot believe about their own success.

              It is said that behind every successful person, there is one of the opposite sex. This is true, because romance is a great motivator. In romance, one begins looking at the world with different eyes. In romance, one wants to look good in the eyes of the beloved. In romance one wants to do everything that pleases one’s beloved. Love conquers all the obstacles on the way and impossible begins looking possible. The romance of a flower makes a Butterfly run hither thither.

              Bring romance in your life. You will find yourself a changed person. You will reach heights from where everything will look small. Let romance motivate you to do what you had only dreams of. Romance is a great Motivator. It gives us great energy to accomplish difficult tasks. It gives us the persistence to achieve all our goals and it gives us dream goals.

            And perhaps a groovy kind of love is the answer to the success question in your life.


P/S

To you whom I haven't met yet, for some people life is like an onion; you peel off layer after layer and then you find there is nothing in it. But for me, life is easier than what they think; all that is necessary is to accept the impossible, do without the indispensable, and bear the intolerable. 

Tom Hanks in Forrest Gump said that life is like a box of chocolate, you will never know what you gonna get. But for me, it's more like a jar of jalapenos chillies.  What you do today might burn your ass tomorrow. 

Dear mysterious someone, that is what I felt about my love for you in future. There is only one difference between a beautiful love and a good dinner:  that, in the dinner, the sweets come last, but the sweetness in my love for will last forever.

Today notes dedicated to you is a bit shorter than usual, perhaps the busy life finally catching up on me. But I want you to remember, put in your heart the fact that I had fallen in love with you way before we knew each other in real life. One day if you ever stumbled upon all my 337 notes, be proud and smile for there is lots of love letters to bright up your day.

My love for you is like a novel with the end ripped out, as the sweetness never had an end. 


For the other half of the sky,

The Half Moon Serenades.