Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Love Makes The World Go Round



Plato once said:

"At the touch of love, everyone become a poet."

           Love is the most important emotion in the world, hence the saying "love makes the world go round". Fear should never be allowed to get in the way of giving loving energy into the atmosphere of this world.

           Is it actually possible to love too much? If we consider for a moment love and hate as being opposite emotions, we do all no doubt agree that it is easily possible to hate too much. Hate in any degree is a dangerous and destructive emotion. Hating at all therefore constitutes hating too much.

           But love is a positive emotion. Thus I question whether it could ever be possible to love too much. Being afraid to love because you are afraid of being hurt is a survival instinct. 

           Loving someone deeply who does not return your feelings can definitely give rise to uncomfortable emotions which are hard to cope with. Getting over a broken relationship when you still love that other person can be a very tough task indeed. But does this mean that you love too much?

          If you wish to be in a relationship that is deeply loving and close then you will never achieve that state unless you do give freely the love that you would like to receive. To not give yourself that chance curtails the potential depth of your relationships. You in effect have to open your heart to that love or you will not be receptive to it.

          I would for this reason argue that you could never love too much. Rather, it is possible to love another person in inappropriate circumstances. Many people "love blindly" in the sense that there is a total imbalance between logical thought and their emotional experience. 

         Your feelings of love and your craving for love can cloud what you are actually seeing in your relationship. Other people, who stand outside your relationship, can often see those things that you are blind to. But those other people cannot really help, because it is you who needs to somehow find a way to step back from your emotions and allow your more logical mind to play a bigger part in your daily reality.

          Perhaps, a groovy kind of love is just around the corner in our life. 





P/S 

To you whom I haven't met yet, love means nothing in tennis, but it's everything in my life. There is a different view point of what I felt about love and one day, I hope we can shared about it together hands in hands.

Sometimes in our life one day, I believed that we have to walk carefully in the beginning of love because the running across the life can only be done when we are sure that neither of us will laugh if we made a mistake and fall down. Instead, we must remember that love is the art of sharing happiness, a tender love that I hope can become a habit to us one day.

The hours I spend with you I look upon as sort of a perfumed garden, a dim twilight, and a fountain singing to it.  You and you alone make me feel that I am alive.  Other men it is said have seen angels, but I have seen your beauty but my love for you is going to be the only myth that never change.


Until then, take care there wherever you are in this world. Put in your heart one day, if you ever see this, for the fact that I had fallen in love with you way before we knew each other. 


Perhaps, love is the mysterious things that make my soul crawled from hiding place waiting for you.




For the other half of the sky, 

The Half Moon Serenades.



 

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

The Art of Anger Management



Siddhartha Gautama Buddha once said:

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."

              
         Anger could cause big problems. A problem that is small in the beginning could become bad if we handle it with anger. Not only will the situation itself get worse, our relationships with others could also deteriorate. In short, handling something with anger won’t make things better.

         That’s why it’s essential to control anger. By controlling anger we will be able to handle problems with calm. We can then exercise our wisdom and judgment to the problem at hand to achieve the best possible solution. Being someone who sometimes gets angry, there are some tips I find useful on dealing with anger. 

 1. Take a deep breath
 
Taking a deep breath is an easy way to calm your nerves. It will be easier for you to do the other tips when your anger has subsided.


2. Drink a glass of water


It’s also an easy way to calm your nerves.


3. Take a bath


I know it is not possible in many circumstances, but if you can do it the effect is immediate.


4. Don’t speak while you are angry


If you did so you may speak harshly to others and that could be something you regret. There is a nice quote about it:

"When angry, count ten before you speak; if very angry, a hundred."
Thomas Jefferson


5. Listen to what people say


Continuing the previous tip, not only should we not speak while we are angry, we should also learn to listen. Pay attention and try to understand the point the other person makes.


6. Take a walk


Changing your situation is a good way to overcome anger. One way to do so is by taking a walk outside.


7. Pray or meditate


Praying or meditating is an effective way to calm your nerve. It could help you regain your inner peace.


8. Listen to calming music


My favorite is instrumental music since it seems to have better calming effect but you can use whatever music that works for you.


9. Have realistic expectations


Sometimes we are angry simply because we have unrealistic expectations toward others. Make sure that your expectations are realistic. You can’t expect other people to be like you.


10. Realize that nobody is perfect


Everybody can make mistake including you. Realizing this will make it easier for you to understand when someone makes mistakes.


11. See from the other person’s perspective


One way to do that is by asking yourself: “How do I feel if I’m in his or her position?”


12. Tell a wise friend


Sometimes you just need to talk about it with a wise friend. He or she can help you see the problem in the right perspective. Just be careful to choose the right person.


13. Look at the positive side


This is a habit you should build. The habit of looking at the positive side will help you look at many situations in constructive ways.


14. Exercise


You can control anger by directing your energy to a different direction so that it’s no longer available for anger. A good candidate is exercising.


15. Learn to forgive


f you release forgiveness you will no longer have reasons to angry to someone else. You can then focus on positive ways to solve the problem.


16. Think in long term


Often we are angry because we see too near to the future and do not think about the implications in the long term. By seeing in the long term we will be able to see the consequences of anger. There’s a quote I love about it:

"When anger rises, think of the consequences."
- Confucius

                    Perhaps by controlling the anger in our life, we will be able to feel the love coming softly into our heart, a groovy kind of love. 


LET'S KICK THE ANGER OUT OF OUR LIFE!




P/S

To you whom I haven't met, looking back as old lovers go walking past me, I couldn't stop wondering how they met and what makes it last? I always stop and thinking about you especially when the words of love song being played in the radio touched my heart. How I wish you will appear in my life one day.

I'll count the hours until that day arrives, when the rhapsody of love is playing music for you and me, until the moment you give your loves to me,  when you'll be the one I will care for in my entire life. 

I can't promise you the world, but I do believe I have the capability to love you with all my heart. Being heart-broken by someone that I loved before is hard but thinking of starting a new love life with you one day, that's the most beautiful stanza in my life.

Until then, put in your heart the fact I had fallen in love with you so much way before we knew each other. Or we might knew each other already but the love wasn't whispered into our heart yet. When you eventually read my blog one day, know that all the post here is dedicated to you, my other half of the sky.

 For the moonlight of my future life,

The Half Moon Serenade.
2nd August 2011.