Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Love & Financial Problem

  
Clifford Odets once said:

"Life shouldn't be printed on dollar bills."           

          Money may not everything, but it also isn’t just anything.  It helps us not only to survive, but also allows us to enjoy other luxuries and do many enjoyable things with the ones we love. 

           Money also gives us the strength and confidence to chase after our dreams and assists us in making them come true. 

           When money is short such as in the credit crunch and debt is involved however, it can affect your romantic relationship, no matter how much you and your partner may love each other.  

           This is because when you go from a life of comfort to a life of struggle and unwanted change, it creates stress for everyone involved and patience can be short.  

           When patience is short, it causes people to be easily annoyed with each other and they tend to snap at each other quickly due to all the worries on their mind.

            Can money problems and a credit crunch ruin a good romantic connection? 

           It can- but it doesn’t have to! With all the financial trouble out there today, it is very likely you will find yourself in some money trouble sooner or later. 

            Naturally, both you and your partner are going to feel concerned and stressed out about it, and that’s okay. The only important effort you both need to make is to do whatever it takes to avoid turning on each other and playing blame games, and instead work together in taking care of your financial situation.  

             As unpleasant as it may be, you both will have to make certain changes in order to keep your heads above water until your situation improves. This includes budgeting on things you never had to before and finding less expensive ways to enjoy life.

           Work together in finding romantic things to do together that cost less. It is essential that you keep your romance alive and healthy during rough times and not allow money obstacles to tear you and your love apart. Tackle your money problems together, but do not neglect your love life. 

            Make dates to do something nice together that will not out a strain on any of your wallets.  For example, you can reserve a certain night for “movie night”, rent some movies and cuddle on the couch together with some sweet snacks. You could also cook up a romantic dinner at home, or go out for dinner and come home for dessert.  

            There are many things you can do- the point is to be attentive to your relationship and not get drowned in your money worries. There is time to work on finances and time to enjoy your relationship. 

            Your passion for each other should not go on hold and there is no need to turn against each other, because this is something you both can tackle and conquer together- as a loving couple. 

Things to Remember:

How you felt about each other when you first fell in love and focus on why you love each other in the first place
  • Remember how supportive you both were of each other when things were going well. It is time to now supportive of each other through struggling times too.
  • Remember that it takes two to keeps things good or to make them go sour. Team work is the key!
  • Always be open to listen to one another, even if you do not always agree. Ignoring things, blaming each other or closing up to what the other has to say will not make your money problems go away and could actually make it worse in more ways than one.
  • Tackle this together and come up with a plan you both like to help you both get back on track. 
               Perhaps a groovy kind of love is just around the corner for you.


P/S

To you whom I haven't met yet,It is very important for me to express to you how much you really worth in my life. I wish I could do this in person while gazing into your eyes. But since we are physically mysterious from each other, separated by miles of waiting, this expression must come in form of letters such as this.

Mysterious girl, that is how I personally think about you. I know one day, it is gonna be difficult for you, as it is for me, to be together forever. Life seems to be full of trials of this type which test our inner strength and more importantly, our devotion and love for one another. After all, it is said that 'true love' is boundless and immeasurable and overcomes all forms of adversity. In truth, if it is genuine, it will grow stronger with each assault upon its existence.

I will cherish any thought of you, I will prize any memory of you that rises from the depth of my mind and live for the day when our physical separation will be the things of the past.
 

Until then, I will continue to wait for you.



With love,

The Half Moon Serenades.

 

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Finding A Love?



Claudia Gandhi once said:
 
 "If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden."     

         Finding someone to be in a relationship is actually quite easy. Finding someone to be in a relationship that actually fulfills you, however, is a different story. So how do you find a relationship that truly fulfills your needs and desires? 

          Setting your priorities straight and having realistic expectations will help guide you into the right direction in finding the relationship you have always wanted. Before you can do that though, you need to make sure that you feel fulfilled on your own first.

           So many people end up in relationships that do not fulfill them because they are entering the relationship with the wrong expectations and for the wrong reasons. A big example of this is someone entering a relationship as a way to feel complete. Many people feel unsatisfied with themselves and their lives, and believe that someone else will be able to fill in that gap for them. 

          Placing the responsibility for your happiness on someone else is unrealistic and will only result in disappointments in the relationship. You also need to acknowledge and accept the fact that there is no such thing as the perfect relationship and that there will be issues that will require teamwork and compromise.

          Most people have the idea that if a relationship is truly happy and meant to be, then there never will be any problems and should not require so much work- it should just be happy. Well, if this is how you view relationships, then it is time to change your way of thinking before you set yourself up for more painful reality checks. 

         If you are interested in finding a person to build a strong romantic relationship with, the best thing to do would be to start by focusing on yourself first- and make sure that you are have your life sorted out, before deciding to share it with someone else. 

         Majority of people would read this say of course, it's common sense and while this may true, people still enter relationship with unrealistic expectation, wrong reasons or before making sure they are fulfilled on their own first.

         So if you feel you are ready to be in a serious, committed relationship, do your self a favor and take it one step at a time. Review the relationship you have with yourself first and make sure that you are truly happy with you are and where you stand currently in your life. 

        Ask yourself why you feel the need to be in a relationship, what you are prepared to invest into it, as well as what you are expecting from your partner. Sorting this out will help you understand your relationship goals and will help you understand what it is you need to look for in a person when trying to find a romantic partner to share your life with.

       Attraction is naturally going to be important to you, and it should be- for no relationship can really start or survive unless both partners are genuinely attracted to each other. 

       Attraction, however, is not enough and before you decide to jump into a relationship with a person you are strongly attracted to, you are going to make sure that he or she also has the other important qualities that you are looking for in a partner. 

        This is why you need to take it slowly and not rush into anything, just because you feel strongly attracted to someone. 
 
        There are many cases where people jump into a relationship based mainly on attraction, with an assumption (or hope) that the person will end up having all the qualities. 

       When time passes and the person realizes that their partner is not who they thought or hoped they were, they are already deeply involved and often look at their partners as who they wished they were, rather than who they really are- and end up stuck in an unfulfilling relationship. 

        So the key to finding a fulfilling relationship is to never lose direction and to always remind yourself of what your real needs are, so that you do not end up in a relationship that does not meet your standards. There is a difference between compromises certain differences, and settling for a less-than-satisfying relationship. 

        You also need to decide exactly what you are prepared to offer another person, so that you do not end up an overwhelming relationship that you were not ready for. Once you understand your real needs and the qualities you are seeking and understand your reasons for wanting to be in a relationship, you will know exactly what to look for and will not get trapped dating anyone who does not fulfill you.

        And perhaps, a groovy kind of love is just around the corner in our life.


P/S

To you whom I haven't met yet, I believe that the feelings of love in each and every human is different in many ways. But one thing that I am really sure about the feelings is the fact that it is part of our life, it make us feels lucky, to have someone that love you and to love someone else in return.
Will you be there for me one day my mysterious love? I am still looking for you. 

I promise if I ever meet you in future, I will treat you like the other half of my sky, just like what Mao Zedong preached to billions of Chinese, just like how John Lennon loves his wife, Yoko Ono so much, and just like how Forrest Gump loves Jenny Curran.

Everyday of my life, I'd always pray to the Almighty God that He will sent me a good girl one day, less complicated than my previous girl. I just want a normal girl, not so rich, not so materialistic because in this life,  we just live on borrowed time from God. It is not about money that matters, it is about the love that we shared and that's the love that I hope I can found in you.

      I end this letter today with a heavy heart because there is so much things that I would like to share with you about my life and my point of view. Look at the star in night sky my special someone, because at the moment you look at it, you can be assured that I am looking at the same direction. Until now, take care and have a bless life. May God sent you to me as fast as possible.
 



Loving you,

The Half Moon Serenades.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Rediscovering the Love In Heart



Marcus Aurelius once said:

"Whatever is in any way beautiful has its source of beauty in itself and is complete in itself."
           
             Have you reached a point in your life where you now look at yourself, yet do not recognize who you are? 

             Do you feel like you have lost yourself, not looking the way you used to, or not acting and doing the things the way you used to do? 

              Do not give up on yourself just yet! There are many reasons to why people let themselves go and you are not alone when it comes to this topic. In fact, the majority of people feel that they have lost themselves in one way or another. 

              While this may be a fact, it is also a fact that you can re-discover yourself and find the person you feel you have lost.

                Before you re-discover yourself, you must research and take notes on yourself, finding out what exactly it is you have lost about your persona. 

              Is it the way you used to look? 

              Or the activities you once took part of? 

              No matter what it is, you must target what that thing or things are. Once you have accomplished that assignment, you should then turn your focus on what you believe is the cause of you partial loss of yourself. 

               When did this losing yourself take place? Was it after you got involved in a relationship? After you got married? Perhaps after you started a new job somewhere? Learning about when and what caused you to let yourself go will play the main role in leading you to re-discovering yourself.

                 Acknowledging that there is something missing and what caused its disappearance is the biggest step, not to mention the most important. Without the acknowledgment, you would still be clueless! 

                It is very common for people to replace their feelings of losing themselves with thoughts telling them that they did not lose themselves, but they just changed. Get in close touch with yourself and make sure you are clear about whether you really have changed, or if you are just in denial. Feel it is difficult to detect the difference? 

              Do not give up.

             If you unsure about it, do not give up, but just go back a few steps. Go back a few steps to the place where you pin pointed exactly what it is about you that you feel you lost.

              When you get there, ask yourself if the loss actually bothers you. If it is something you think about often, wishing that you could be that way again but cannot seem to get there, then you are definitely in need of re-discovery. 

              If you feel that it is something you used to do, but is simply a past version of yourself, then you are fine and should just let it go and concentrate on moving on with your present life.
 
              If you do wish to get back a part of yourself that you did lose, how can you get it back? Chances are you have probably attempted getting it back, but could not stick to it and ended up giving up and feeling worse about it. 

              What you need to do is rate the importance of this and put it on your highest priority list. Make it a daily habit to report to yourself and see what you have done daily to take a step forward into gaining that part of you back. 

               Keep a daily journal and write down your thoughts on it, what you plan to do about it, and how it goes. Be sure to also write down a reminder to yourself everyday about how much you wish to get this part of you back. 

              Reminding yourself about on a constant note will help you gain the strength and confidence to push yourself harder to getting, because you believe more and more that you can do- and nothing will stop you.

              The truth is, you never really lost yourself, you just neglected apart of you that is now demanding attention again. Throw all of your excuses out the window and start facing the facts in front of you. There is nothing or no one in this world who should drive you to neglect a part of yourself. 

               You know that it takes balance and organization to maintain the other things in your life like relationships, work, friendships, family life and so on, so what makes you any different? If you want to continue being the person you always were, as well as adding new wonderful things to your personal being, then you need be organized. 

                This means making time to invest attention and effort to all angles of your personal being and the things around you, as well as the people that share an important part of your life. 

                 By organizing your time, you will soon see how your life and views about yourself wonderfully get back into shape, and you will not only re-discover yourself, but discover a new side and strength that will open more opportunities for you!




P/S

To you whom I haven't met yet, mysterious destiny, that is what is my view about you, my special someone. Will I ever met you? How would you look like? Do you have the most beautiful smile that I am longing to see for so long? 

Sometimes when I walked near the Teluk Bahang Dam, I'd always look at the sky, especially after a long heavy rain. It seems like the sky and its reflection on the water combined together, providing the most beautiful sparkle I had ever seen in my life. And the mountain at the back of the lake provide the most serene surrounding that a guy like me could ever wish to see. And when the sun comes up, it looks like heavens stopped for awhile and the earth stopped spinning, that is how beautiful the scenery there. 

I wish you was there with me. But I know it will happen one day where you and me, our heart will beat as one. 

 Once again, i end it today with a heavy heart. Still there is so much things that I would like to share with you. Things that I hope can shine up your life, my sunshine. Look up at the morning sky above, look at the pattern at the sky because for me, the pattern just look like you and I. 


With all my love, 
The Half Moon Serenades.

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Communication In Love



Sri Sathya Sai Baba once said:

"A man who has no love in him is as barren as a cloud with no moisture, a tree with no fruits or a cow yielding no milk; he is ever far from God and can never earn His Grace."


             Communication is something we all know is necessary to keep any relationship strong and loving, and although we are aware of the importance of communication, we still seem to be clueless about what exactly good communication really is. 

             This does not mean you are clueless as a person, but it does mean that more attention is required on your part, so that you can become more open and invite the many forms of communication that exist, so that you will be able to understand yourself and your partner much better. 

             There is nothing that keeps a relationship healthy, better than understanding and once you start becoming more familiar with your communicating styles, as well as your partners, you will be able to work better as a team in making the best of your relationship.

           The first step in achieving better communication that will really work, is to take a look at you first. People always tend to turn to their partner first when things are not running so smoothly in their relationship. 

            They automatically start pointing out what their partner is doing or not doing, as well as how their partner is not listening to them. This may all be true depending on your particular situation, but it is important that you take the responsibility in reviewing your own actions and communication first, before you can point anything out in your partner. 

            Remember, it is very easy to see other people's mistakes, but when it comes to looking at you, it is much harder to accept criticism, even from yourself- because no one wants to be wrong. 

            This is where you need to get real about things. Communication is not about who is right or wrong, but instead about helping each other see things from each other's perspective, so that you can be on the page and avoid any misunderstanding that will cause unneeded arguments.

               Get winning out of your mind. So many couples claim to have tried communication, but it does not seem to work. If this is your case, then the best thing would be to slow down, calm down and take a few steps back. 

               Perhaps communication is not working for your relationship, but what method of communication are you using? You see, communication itself cannot be the problem or the ineffective ingredient, because communication is the main key to a healthy relationship, so it must be the way you and your partner are communicating. 

               When you or your partner talks to each other, do one or both of you talk to win the conversation, or to actually reach a level of understanding of each other's needs and wants? 

               Believe it or not, it is very common for people to focus on being right and trying to convince their partner of seeing things their way, instead of just sharing what they think and feel so their partner can understand what they mean and what they need.


             Listening is so important if you truly wish to accomplish good communication that will improve your relationship. Are you really listening to what your partner is saying to you, or are you waiting to get things off you chest and make your points? 

          Listening may sound like an easy enough thing to do, but many confuse it with hearing. Hearing what your partner is saying versus listening to them, are indeed very different. 

         Listening involves true dedication and your full attention to the words your partner is serving to you, as well as the tones and expressions that go along with those words. 

          Listening means that you are interested in learning more about what your partner is making an effort to tell you and making the emotional connection needed in order to achieve your relationship goals together. 

          Keep in mind that when in a relationship, all communication between partners has to be open, honest, non-judgmental and patient, if you are to succeed and maintaining a happy and healthy relationship

             Communication is not so complicated, once you understand what the right way communicating is, and of course- what methods of communication works for you and your communication best. Effective communication cannot happen on it's own or with the efforts of only one person. 

             Both you and your partner have to be open and willing to work as a team on improving the way you communicate, so that you both can enhance your relationship skills and build a relationship where you both will have an understanding of who you are as individuals and what you both need and want. 

           Just remember to stay real with yourself and avoid painting a foggy and falsified picture- so that you will never be caught off guard with nay-painful surprises or stressful misunderstandings.

            Perhaps a groovy kind of love is just around the corner for you and your partner.

P/S

To you whom I haven't met yet, I really believe that before you and me bump to each other in future, we were half a person. You know there is an old myth about people being half and the other half being in the sky, or in the heaven, or on the other side of the universe, or perhaps just a mirror image. But for me, we are two halves, and together we're a whole. That's what I feel about us. 

Dear mysterious someone, I have been waiting for you for quite a long time. But don't be sad, don't be afraid. Deep in my heart, I will wait for you to appear in my life one day. There was an old saying by a Greek philosopher that I quote, true love is like a blossoming lavender, it is a long wait, but when it blossomed, you will enjoy the air of serenity and love within it. How I wish that quote can be translated into real life.

For the other half of the sky that I haven't met yet, the moment you click into this letter, kept that in your heart that I had fallen in love with you way before we met each other in real life. For that my special someone, you and me, we shared a groovy kind of love together. 


With all my love,

The Half Moon Serenades.