Monday, January 31, 2011

My Idea of Making A Girl Feels Special

       
         My point of view is that love and insecurity are two sides of the same coin. The more you love a person, the more is the fear of losing them. No matter how old your relationship is, it is always important to keep reminding yourself and your partner about your endless love for one another and the importance of the relationship in both your lives. Well, I believed in doing such things below, it could make a simple love as beautiful as ever.

1. Simple Hand Written Notes Left In Different Places:

This is both simple and cute. All you have to do is leave small messages at places. For instance, place a note near the mirror saying - You’re the most gorgeous person I’ve ever met. Your partner will be delighted to get these little surprises.

Example: Dear sweetheart, do you want to look at the person that I love the most, look at the mirror and the reflection on it is the girl that I love so much.

2. Making Dinner:
 
Set the table yourself for your sweetheart. Also arrange for some nice romantic music playing in the background. Prepare all of your partner’s favorite dishes. To make it even more special let the whole preparation be a surprise.

3. Listen To Them:
 
Everyone would like to talk about their life’s worries to the one they love. So the next time your partner has a rough day or some problems to share, listen to them. It will bring both of you closer and would be a gesture showing moral support.

4. Surprise With Red Roses:
 
Flowers never go out of fashion. Red roses have symbolized love since time immemorial. Once in a while, get your better half a sweet bouquet of red roses for absolutely no special reason. To add more romance attach a message or a love letter to it.

5. Pamper With A Nice Massage:

Everyone likes a good massage after a hard day’s work. When it is given from the one they love, it makes it more special. Pamper your partner with a good body massage. They would sincerely appreciate it.

6. Be Nice To The Parents:
 
Everyone wants their parents to love the person with whom they are in a relationship. Visit your partner’s parents once in a while, talk to them with respect and show them that you really deserve being with their son or daughter. Make the parents fall in love with you and see the respect for you in your partner’s eyes rise.

7. Take Them To Watch The Sunset With You:
 
It could be at the beach or at some hill station. Driving somewhere far off to watch the sun setting together is a romantic idea and will never fail to charm your partner.

8. Compliment Them:
 
Compliment them often. Tell them how special they are to you and how much you love them. However, also make sure you sound convincing. Look deep into their eyes while speaking to them.

9. Share Secrets With Them:
 
Tell them something you haven’t told anyone else. It will show them that you not only trust them but also treat them as someone closest to you.


10. Watch Stars Together:
 
What can be more romantic than watching the stars with your partner? You could even go a step ahead and name a star after them and surprise them with this rare gift.

        Please remember that to express your love you need not shower your partner with expensive gifts. Small gestures mean a lot more and truly show your feelings to them. However, these gestures should be continuous and not just for an occasion or two. This will ensure a strong bond of love between both of you.

        Maybe my idea sounds strange or maybe some people will say, did you ever did all this? The answer is yes, even though I am all alone now.
       
        Perhaps it is just a groovy kind of love in me. 


P/S 
To whom I haven't met yet, the stars will fade one day, the sun will set at the end of the day, the moon will be blocked when eclipse arrived, but my love for you will go on and on. I just can't wait for God to sent you into my heart someday. The moment you look at this entry, put in your heart the fact I had fallen in love with you forever and a day way before we met each other. 

Sunday, January 30, 2011

Does Forever In Love Exist In This World?

          
         Whenever I sat on my comfortable red sofas and watching Forrest Gump, I'd always thought, that why can't we be like Jenny and Forrest? is there is think called forever in love? Or perhaps, people like Yoko Ono and John Lennon is hard to find again, once in blue moon.

          When I was in love, I dedicated all my love to my other half of the sky but there is something about my love that is not enough for the person called woman.
       
          Sad as you may say it is, but does true love truly exist anymore? Whatever happened to the love that was supposed to last forever? And no my dear friends, this is no more a rhetorical question. In today’s world, love just manages survives in a 300 page novel, because in the real world you will hardly see such miracles taking place.

         Here we have occasions like Valentines day that promote everlasting love. 

        While, on the other end of the spectrum we got people who detest the whole idea of staying with one person for the rest of your life. It’s very conveniently tagged as ‘boring’ and ‘irksome’. Today changing partners has become this new trend, that the world seems to be worshiping. 

        There was a time when we had eternal love stories to learn from, like Romeo and Juliet. Such stories used to set an example to the youth teaching them the values of loyalty and fighting for the one you love. However, today we have stories like 500 days of summer successfully taking its place and positioning itself very comfortably into our society. In today’s world the term ‘love’ is no more a strong word the way it used to be in yesteryear. 

          People don’t even think twice before telling someone that they love them. And then again don’t even think once before ending the relationship, as soon as they begin to feel that their relationship is missing something that they very conveniently call as ’spark’. When the truth is, even they don’t know what was that ’spark’. ‘Absence of spark’ is the modified version of saying ‘I’m bored of you’ or ‘I find somebody else cuter’.

          Relationships need to be constantly nurtured and care for. Problems have to be worked on. You certainly cannot expect your relationship to work on its own. To make it work, efforts have to be made. If you do then you will never have any regrets that you didn’t try.

           No, it’s not easy. But if you manage to work on them, as years pass and you look back you will feel a sense of pride and satisfaction. Nobody takes pictures of the hard times. 

          However, it is these hard times only that pull you through one happy picture to the other.

         Maybe, just maybe, our life is like a wind passing by, sweet yet bring together full of hope. It is a groovy kind of love.  


P/S 

To whom I haven't met yet, I want you to be happy one day when we are together. Don't be sad, don't be afraid, our love will come softly, and I will love you more and more each day, as time goes by.

10 Ways How To Make A Woman Feels That They Are The Other Half of The Sky


It is easy to be 'green' in relationship, but it is hard to be 'red' in love. There is a different view point of what I felt about being in love. Long ago, there was this bunch of people who told me that the way I treated girl can make people misunderstood my intention, but I believe woman is the other half of the sky, right? As such, below is what I believe a guy should do to their woman. It is not just for someone special in my heart, but to all woman in this world.
 
1. Tell her those three golden words:
 
When a guy tells his sweetheart just how much he loves her, it makes her feel very special. Girls are die-hard romantics. Though many of them deny it, they are mesmerized by someone who keeps reminding her that she is the most special girl in the world for him and he really loves her. The three golden words ‘I Love You’ can work wonders to the mood of a girl and would be a good sign to show her that you care.

2. Leave little gifts:
 
Even if a girl is fiercely independent, occasional gifts from her lover makes her feel special and loved. The gifts don’t have to be expensive or flashy. For most of the girls, it is the thought that counts. The gift would go to show that she is the one who is always on your mind.

3. Compliment her often:
 
Compliments are music for the ears of girls. Since long, men have tried their best to impress girls by showering them with compliments. It has been a way to show a girl how perfect she is. A compliment will show your girl that your love and care for her is increasing. While complimenting you should look very sincere otherwise it may come across as fake.

4. Offer a helping hand:
 
Guys often tend to be laid back when it comes to doing their chores and that may leave a girl overburdened. One of the ways to show that you love her is to offer a hand in the housework and help her. Love is about going through the ups and downs of life together. Responsibilities, shared equally, go a long way in keeping a relationship healthy and strong.

5. Avoid criticizing her:
 
Girls are very bad in dealing with criticism. It is unacceptable to them that someone puts them down so easily by throwing all their mistakes on them. If you criticize her often, you are ensuring a breakup soon. Instead give her advice from time to time. Don’t sound like a preacher, but sound like a friend.

6. Make her feel special:
 
Every girl thinks of herself as a princess and her man as her Prince Charming. She expects him to be a lover straight out of a romantic novel at times. Your attempts to charm her and make her feel special will never go waste as many girls crave for men who can make them feel so. Victorian romances are still very popular among a lot of girls as in the romances of that era the women would be made to feel special by their man in little ways. She will love you for all your efforts you are giving to the relationship.

7. Kidnap her from routine:
 
This may sound like a crazy idea but can work out to be a great one if done in the right way. Attempt to kidnap her but in a fun way. Next, take her somewhere that she does not expect at all. This would be a great break from routine and a stress buster for both of you. She will be surprised to see your concern for her. Make the rules of the kidnap clear that she would be with you for as long as you want to kidnap her from her routine and take her to places where it will be just the two of you enjoying togetherness.

8. Ask her more about her day:
 
One of the best ways to tell her that you love her and are there for her always, is to let her talk more. Come out of your own needs and inquire about hers. Ask her some questions like how her day was and if it was bad, was there any particular reason for it to be so. Offer your help in situations you can improve and show your support if the matters are beyond your control. Women don’t need much when it comes to support. Asking her little things and showing concern will make her feel loved and wanted.

9. Do things together:
 
When couples do new things together, the bond of love between them increases and thus, the relationship is strengthened. For every couple, it is essential to do some things together as it gives rise to a feeling of connection among them. The couple work as a team for whatever they are doing and make some memories that last them a lifetime. Things that can be undertaken together are common hobbies, special classes, adventure sports and so on.

10. Give work an occasional miss to be with her:
 
To tell her just how much you love her, give work an occasional miss to be with her. This would show her that nothing holds more importance in your life than her as she is right at the top on your list of priorities. Also, try to implement some very basic things like not getting busy with work as soon as you get home and keeping your work related phone calls on a low when you are with her. This would never make her feel second place to anything in your life.
Implementing some of these little things in your life would result in her feeling that you love her and are always there for her irrespective of everything. She would be more comfortable with you than with anyone else. Your love and your efforts would also ensure that she is happy in the relationship.

It is just a groovy kind of way I believe.


P/S  To the girl whom I haven't met yet in my life, put that in heart the fact that I love you so much way before we met each other. Did you know that my love is a groovy kind of love?

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Easy vs Difficult Journey In Our Life


Sometimes in our life, we often misunderstood the difference between the words 'easy' and 'difficult'. We tend to repeat the same mistake where simple and easy things being settled through hard and difficult way. Perhaps we didn't discovered the secret yet?

Easy is to get a place in someone's address book,
Difficult is to get a place in someone's heart.

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others,

Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes.

Easy is to talk without thinking,

Difficult is to refrain the tongue.

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us,

Difficult is to heal the wound.

Easy is to forgive others,
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness,

Easy is to set rules,
Difficult is to follow them.

Easy is to dream every night,
Difficult is to fight for a dream.

Easy is to show victory,
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity.

Easy is to admire a full moon,
Difficult to see the other side.

Easy is to stumble with a stone,
Difficult is to get up.

Easy is to enjoy life every day,
Difficult is to give its real value.

Easy is to pray every night,
Difficult is to find God in small things.

Easy is to promise something to someone,
Difficult is to fulfill that promise.

Easy is to say we love,
Difficult is to show it every day.

Easy is to criticize others,
Difficult is to improve oneself.

Easy is to make mistakes,
Difficult is to learn from them.

Easy is to weep for a lost love,
Difficult is to take care of it so you wont lose it.

Easy is to think about improving,
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action.

Easy is to think bad of others,
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt.

Easy is to receive,
Difficult is to give.

Easy is to keep friendship with words,
Difficult is to keep it with meanings.

Easy to read this,
Difficult to follow.


It is just a groovy kind of life, and for me, it is another half moon serenade.  

The Secret Within Us

      
      Our life is full of secret within the heart and soul that hardly we discovered until it is too late. Sometimes when I sat alone, under the moonlight, I asked myself, how to make myself a better person one day. And then I realized, perhaps there is a secret that I need to uncovered first.

The FIRST secret - the power of THOUGHT

       Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his or her needs and desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her when you meet her.

The SECOND secret - the power of RESPECT.

      You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect, ask yourself, What do I respect about myself? - To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, What do I respect about them?

The THIRD secret - the power of GIVING. 

       If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

The FOURTH secret - the power of FRIENDSHIP. 

      To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other"s eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love him or her for who they are and not for what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The FIFTH secret - the power of TOUCH. 

       Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.

The SIXTH secret - the power of LETTING GO. 

       If you love something, let it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was. Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life. -

The SEVENTH secret - the power of COMMUNICATION. 

        When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: I Love You Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see him or her. If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say and .. why are you waiting?

The EIGHTH secret - the power of COMMITMENT. 

        If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the TRUE test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

The NINTH secret - the power of PASSION. 

           Passion ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences. When you felt passionate spontaneity and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The TENTH secret - the power of TRUST. 

          Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust him or her completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, . Do I trust them completely and unreservedly? - If the answer is no -, think carefully before making a commitment.

    
           Maybe this is just a groovy kind of love where the secret should be a secret forever. Am I right?



P/S To whom I haven't met yet, you are the sweetest secret that I am longed to meet one day. Someday.

Friday, January 28, 2011

The Marbles

               
               Yesterday, a girl asked me, why she is so unlucky to have a boyfriend who didn't appreciated her as a woman who loved him as much as I appreciated woman in my life.
    
                Immediately, I remembered when I was roughly a nine years old boy. There was this Qi Yan (or Sher Yan?). We are playing together with my collection of marbles. That day, she brought with her some sweets and I told her, I will give all my beautiful marbles in exchange for her sweets. She agreed with it.

               I am such a naughty brats at that age, and instead of giving her all my beautiful marbles, I choose the best and biggest marbles and kept it, giving her the rest which I deemed unworthy to keep it.
  
              That night, when every one sleep peacefully, I couldn't sleep, as I kept wondering, not about my misdeeds, but if she had hidden some sweets from me the way I hidden my best marbles. 

              You see, I learned a valuable lesson from this incident when I am matured enough to think. I learned that if you don't give your best in a relationship, you'll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her best. This is applicable in any kind of relationship like love/friendship/working and etc. 

              Give your best in every thing and let God be the guide in your peaceful sleep. It will be a groovy kind of sleep.