Saturday, December 3, 2011

The Freedom In Love


Mother Teresa once said:

"Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love."

            In love many of us have a picture of somebody ideal. We also have some expectations, rather a lot of expectations from our lover. Behavior, upkeep, dressing style, speaking style, hobbies, looks and many such character traits that are personal may get dictated by one lover to another.

             This make-up does not suit you. Why do you walk with such swagger? It does not look good. Why are you spending so much time talking on telephone? When will you improve your communication skills? Please improve your dress sense. Look at others, how well they keep themselves. 

              A lover can have his/her own idea about the beloved and try to mold the beloved accordingly. They rob the freedom from their lover. Is that love? Will this be loved and liked by the partner? Will this not affect the relationship?

            You fell in love with an individual with many pluses and many minuses. After knowing all of them, you decided to build a relationship. After developing the relationship, you want your lover to change in many ways. Is that not breaking the unspoken promises? 

            By demanding changes, we make our lover feel inferior. By demanding changes, we irritate our lover. We bring down the quality of love. How can you expect to be loved by someone who is getting regular instructions of change from you? You cannot expect love. But many of us do this consciously or unconsciously. We kill the beauty of love by this.

           All of us have their freedom to be what they are. We should leave them as they are and focus only on love and relationship. That will help us live a fruitful life that is pleasant.

          And perhaps a groovy kind of love is just around the corner for you and your partner.





       
P/S


To you whom I haven't met yet, will you believe me if I said that faith is the biggest assets in love? For me, I believe that love brings euphoria in life. Love can give great satisfaction and enjoyment forever. For that to happen, you have to understand more about what is love, your own expectations and how to get the partner with whom you can live in love. Love can also destroy.

And this is where faith is playing its part. My mysterious someone, love is when I see you as part of my life, the way you talked, the way you dressed up and the way you moved. I believe that change is needed in a relationship, let it be about the appearance, behavior or anything else but we need to take a step or two slowly but surely.

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity. This is what motivated me to wrote 330 love letters to you my mysterious someone. Spanning three wonderful years, my love for you is forever and the day I finally met you, that is the day we can be like two volumes in one book.


Until then, put in your heart the fact that I had fallen in love with you way before we knew each other. One day, we will make love with our eyes.  Sometimes we will make love with our hands.  Most of the times, we make love with our bodies.  But for always I will make love with our hearts. For you will be the other half of my sky.

Loving you is when we can be stupid together but sharing the laughter.

For the other half of the sky,

The Half Moon Serenades.


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