Leo Tolstoy once said:
"If you want to be happy, be."
Happiness is ephemeral, subject to the vagaries of everything from the weather to the size of your bank account.
I'm not suggesting that you can reach a permanent state called “happiness” and remain there. But there are many ways to swerve off the path of anxiety, anger, frustration, and sadness into a state of happiness once or even several times throughout the day.
1. Practice mindfulness.
Be in the moment. Instead of worrying about your checkup tomorrow while you have dinner with your family, focus on the here and now — the food, the company, the conversation.
2. Laugh out loud.
Just anticipating a happy, funny event can raise levels of endorphins and other pleasure-inducing hormones and lower production of stress hormones. Take for example, watching your favorite comedy movies with your loves one.
3. Go to sleep.
We have become a nation of sleep-deprived citizens. Taking a daily nap or getting into bed at 8 p.m. one night with a good book — and turning the light out an hour later — can do more for your mood and outlook on life than any number of bubble baths or massages.
4. Hum along.
Music soothes more than the savage beast. The fact is music activates parts of the brain that produce happiness — the same parts activated by food or sex. It’s also relaxing.
5. Just say no.
Eliminate activities that aren’t necessary and that you don’t enjoy. If there are enough people already to handle the work and you’re feeling stressed by the thought of running any society for yet another year, step down and let someone else handle things.
6. Make a list.
There’s nothing like writing down your tasks to help you organize your thoughts and calm your anxiety. Checking off each item provides a great sense of fulfillment.
7. Do one thing at a time.
Instead of talking on the phone while you fold laundry or clean the kitchen, sit down in a comfortable chair and turn your entire attention over to the conversation. Instead of checking e-mail as you work on other projects, turn off your e-mail function until you finish the report you’re writing. This is similar to the concept of mindfulness.
Not only will the fresh air and exercise provide their own stress reduction and feeling of well-being, but the sense of accomplishment that comes from clearing a weedy patch, watching seeds turn into flowers, or pruning out dead wood will last for hours, if not days.
9. Scent the air.
Research finds that the benefits of aromatherapy in relieving stress are real. In one study people exposed to rosemary had lower anxiety levels, increased alertness, and performed math computations faster. Adults exposed to lavender showed an increase in the type of brain waves that suggest increased relaxation. Today you have a variety of room-scenting methods, from plug-in air fresheners to essential oil diffusers, potpourri, and scented candles.
10. Visit a quiet place.
Libraries, museums, gardens, and places of worship provide islands of peace and calm in today’s frantic world. Find a quiet place near your house and make it your secret getaway.
Helping others enables you to put your own problems into perspective and also provides social interaction. While happy people are more likely to help others, helping others increases your happiness.
12. Spend time alone.
Although relationships are one of the best antidotes to stress, sometimes you need time alone to recharge and reflect. Take yourself out to lunch or to a movie, or simply spend an afternoon reading, browsing in a bookstore, or antiquing.
13. Walk mindfully.
You probably already know that exercise is better than tranquilizers for relieving anxiety and stress. But what you do with your mind while you’re walking can make your walk even more beneficial.
14. Give priority to close relationships.
Women, and to a lesser extent men, also seemed to benefit from good relationships with their parents and spouses. Studies also find that people who feel lonely, depressed, and isolated are three to five times more likely to get sick and die prematurely than those who have feelings of love, connection, and community.
15. Take care of the soul.
For many people faith provides a support community, a sense of life’s meaning, feelings of ultimate acceptance, a reason to focus beyond yourself, and a timeless perspective on life’s woes. Even if you’re not religious, a strong spirituality may offer similar benefits.
Well, perhaps what you really need to do is count your blessings. People who pause each day to reflect on some positive aspect of their lives (their health, friends, family, freedom, education, etc.) experience a heightened sense of well-being.
And believe me, a groovy kind of love is just around the corner for people who believe in it.
NEVER STOP THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS!
To you whom I haven't met yet, there is something beautiful in our life that we often intentionally or unknowingly forget. And that is happiness. Sometimes we tend to be so occupied with our works until we forget that happiness is the real answer to all sort of question in our problematic life.
Life's beautiful and the key to that particular is a wonder called happiness. In the mood of happiness, we will learn the basic things of being a human. In the beauty of happiness, we can see the little world in us and try to make it a better place.
And that's how my view about you, my future special someone. I want you to be happy. Happy because I'm always there for you, physically and mentally. Happy because you knew deep in your heart and mind that I won't leave you and stop loving you till death do us apart.
Come into my life one day with open heart and cheer my soul with the sound of your laughter. Love is forever, when make you happy one day with my crazy idea of love. After all crazy is being defined as happy too.
For the other half of the sky,
The Half Moon Serenades.
27th July 2011.