Sunday, February 13, 2011

A Groovy Kind of Love

           So how do you get her or him to fall in love with you? Is there a magical secret to win anyone's heart to your favor? 

           Maybe there is one special thing that can make a person fall in love with you, and all you have to do is that one thing. Could it be a special scent you can buy from the department store and spray on you, a pheromone or something similar to make anyone weak to your powers? 

          Well, yes and no. There is a simple way to make someone fall in love with you. It may take some work on your part, but it is very simple.

          When we are single and trying to attract others into our lives, we go all out to look the best we can, we work out like maniacs to get that perfect body. Our clothes are the latest styles, and have heavy price tags. We grab the attention of others and maybe date a few times then move on to the next person. 

          There we are again and again in the same place we were when we started and the cycle begins again. So what happened during our bonding process to make one or both of us run for the hills and back into the single world?
         The first date, we are the perfect gentleman or lady being careful with what we say and do. Men are opening the doors for the women and being on their best behavior. The women are ladies, listening intently to the conversation keeping eye contact so he knows she is interested. The date ends with a kiss and both parties are anxious to meet again, going over the night in their heads smiling and content they have the beginning of something wonderful. 
        The second date the charm is flying from both ends. Everyone is happy and things seem to go very well. Next thing we know you are several months or years into this relationship, and you wonder why you keep trying to keep things going. Maybe you aren't even trying anymore, and instead you are waiting for the perfect opportunity to get out and on with your life. How did it get from date one to this point again? Why do we keep attracting those losers? If we take a look at how we progressed through the courting period of our relationships, we might find the answer.

           Let's go back to the original question. How do you get someone to fall in love with you? This is the easy part. The answer is by being you from the beginning. If you are acting in a manner that is not consistent to whom you are, then how can you expect them to fall in love with you. 

          The best case scenario in this situation is they fall in love with the person you are pretending to be. This is when we end up in the scenario of the proverbial squirrel cage. Starting and ending relationships never finding happiness with our partners or dare I say us. If we are true to ourselves, we will attract those who want to be with us. If we are attracting people who want to be with someone like us, then eventually we end up with someone who loves you. 

         And now we have a relationship that can last and have meaning and substance, in another words, a healthy relationship.

           If for some reason we don't like who we truly are, then we can't expect anyone else to like us can we? Now we get to the hard part. One of the hardest things anyone can do is to take a look inside us and point out the things we don't like or don't respect about ourselves. Most people already know what they do and don't like about themselves, but keep the bad locked away. 

         The beautiful thing is we can change the bad things. It is going to take effort and honesty, but anyone can change. In fact, the only thing we can change in life is ourselves and how we react to outside stimulus.

         The reason we don't change is because it is much easier to not change. But if we choose to be the person we want to be, and we work towards being that person, we grow and mature. When we grow and mature we become a better person and we begin to like ourselves for who we are. 

        If we like who we are, we will be ourselves around other people, and begin to attract those who are capable and want to love someone like us. 

       Then, and only then, do we have a chance to build a healthy, loving, rewarding, and long lasting relationship.

      We all desire to be with that special someone, to find the one we are meant to be with. Yet it feels hard and sometimes impossible to connect and to be found. 
     There are so many people, so many to search through, so many choices. Yet even to meet the right one seems improbable. It is not. It is not a task or a struggle, you must believe it is probable, to the point of it being your right. 

        You deserve happiness and companionship, and you will find it. It will come, for this is part of your life and in truth the odds are with you. For everyone, every single person is looking for the same thing you are, true love and happiness. It is all around you and part of you already.

            Relationships do come and go and if one ends, it is only opening up the probability to meet your true one. You shouldn’t see the end of a relationship as a failure but simply opening the gates for love to flow in. 

             We find ourselves in a pattern of searching, finding, loving and possibly regretting the end. But change only moves us closer to finding and being with what we truly desire. When a connection is made early on, when two people know they are meant for each other this is probability coming to a close.

             This is their moment for peace and happiness; they have found what each other desire and have joined together. What is important to remember is that we are each meant to find this and to live this kind of love. It is sacred to our being and a source of happiness and joy. To believe this, to have faith in the possibility, gives you the access to so much more.

           But how do you find your other half, where do you look? 

         Have you ever thought that it could come to you? 

         That the search is not the only option? 

         We live in a world so full of people, options everywhere that if we remain open someone very well could walk right in. Open your eyes to what is around you right now, your neighbors, your friends, acquaintances from your past and present. All these people are part of your life and connected to you for a reason.

         Now I don’t mean to say you should go banging on your neighbors doors to see who is available. But remember that all around you are people looking for the same thing. If your heart and mind are open and if you trust that the likelihood of finding your true love is possible, it will come. It may surprise you, if you let go of how it has to be done; release control of the method, relax and just look around.

            Open yourself to the probability that you could meet someone today, right now, they could be the one. Write no one off for it could be someone you already know. Trust your instincts with your heart and mind open. Believe you can meet and fall in love with the person you are truly meant for, because it will happen. We are all meant to have this connection in life, and it will be found.

             Release the idea of it being hard and remain open with all the possibilities. Let go of the process you think is necessary and see it as possible everywhere and at every moment. By doing so you have just skyrocketed your probability to find love and you will.

         Maybe a groovy kind of love is just around the corner.

To you whom I haven't met yet, love me for who I am one day, only then we will discover each other. I believe that love will come softly in my life, and I hope that is the love I will found in you. Today, on 14th February, is the day where all the lovers in this world is celebrating the beauty of love, yet, I am alone here, wishing upon the stars that God sent me someone, someone that won't leave me when I am down with illness like what happened before, someone who appreciated my love and not embarrassed to walk hands in hands with me. Is there anyone like that in this world my love? Well, for the other half of the sky, put it your heart the fact that I love you so much way before we knew other when you read my blog one day. I will love you more and more each day, as time goes by.

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