Wednesday, February 23, 2011

First Love


William Shakespeare once said:

"Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds."

             Theoretically first love can happen in any age or not happen at all. But most people had fallen in love for the first time when they were teenagers. That exciting new experience most of us remember very well during all our life. 

             For an adult his/her own high school problems and the problems of their children seem very funny, silly and simple especially compared with all the difficulties of adult life. Somehow we forget how tragic and full of drama life and relationships were than in our adolescence.

             Than a teenager falls in love and it happens for the first time he/she feels all its ups and downs for the first time either. In that age we mostly enjoy ourselves and study the new emotions inside than show much interest for the inner world of our first boy/girlfriend.

              Once we start to show interest to the persons of the other sex and a little later instinctively choose our first love. The relationships between two sexes will interest and  trouble us during all our future life but these first steps are always the most difficult and for some of us turn to be very painful. 

            Teenager has a growing and changing body that he/she hasn't started to understand yet and a delicate soul which is so easy to hurt.

             Adults very often don't take this first affection for serious, they may laugh at it, preach, tell their children that they are too young to really feel anything, that his or her object isn't a good pair for him or her, they may try obey them stop seeing their boy/girlfriend. 

            This is all very wrong. No one can stop anybody from falling in love especially when it's so beckoning with the novelty. Wise adults can only try to support their young comrade to pass this complicated with the least wounds and hurt. 

            The feelings of adolescents are as changeable as their mood. So the first love usually goes very soon after it comes.  The mission of people around is to show that it's not the end of world and that a teenager is not alone, that there still stay people who love him/her and in their love he/her can't be sure. 

            The first love is only the first lesson to learn but it like Alphabet stays in the basic of the whole future relationships of a human.

              Very often we cherish these memories a lot, sometimes idealize them, remember the first love as something very innocent and fragile. If something went wrong than some people may have some problems with starting new relationships, they may even achieve come serious complexes that will be spoiling their relationships all the time.

              But there is no such low that tells we all fall in love for the first time in our adolescence if not with our coevals, than with our favorite teaches, famous actors and pop-stars. 


             Yes, teenagers searching an ideal love object in the real life and not finding it there can turn to TV-screen heroes, or persons who are elder and seem wiser and more experienced when the people of the same with them age. 

            Of course most adults don't take these kids falling for them too serious. It passes as does the hysterical passion for the pop-stars. But still some people don't fall in love at this age of first love at all, they have some boy/girlfriends in order not to differ from others, to satisfy curiosity and a booty call, they may really like the coevals they have relationships with, but still it nothing serious. 

             For those people their first love may come later, and the feeling will be the same new and surprising for them as for the teenagers. 

             But Bernard Show said that if you haven't fallen in love till you're forty you already shouldn't do it after.

            Perhaps a groovy kind of love is what the first love really is in a person life.



P/S

To you whom I haven't met yet, I thought I had found you when I met my first love. Her wish was my command until she ran out of love when meeting someone new. She is my every thing, I love her as good as any woman deserved to be loved but sadly she left me when I am down with illness. I guess I need to continue my journey to find you, my mysterious someone.

One day, when I finally met you in my life, I know that I am forever in debt to you. The love that you showed to me one day, I hope is not kind of love that can be paid by any coin in any realm, but a true love that live till death do us apart. 

Over and over again, whenever I met a new girl, I tried to tell myself that we can't be more than friend. I guess I am afraid of being left alone again. But I do know one thing my mysterious someone, love is the magician that pulls man out of his own hat. 

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity. I hope one day, you and me can see the evening flies hands by hands.


Until then, set myself free one day with your love. Help me to get out from the ghost of first love that cuts like a knife. Take care there my mysterious someone. I know you exist somewhere out there beneath the scorching sun and pale moonlight. 


A hundred hearts would be to few to carry all my love for you one day. Put in your heart the fact that I love you so much way before we knew each other. Perhaps it is the groovy kind of love that we gonna shared together one day. Someday.



Just can't stop loving you,

Half Moon Serenades.

1 comment:

Nava.K said...

Love hurts at every age.